I’ve written this blog this way because I know I am not the only one who this pertains too. I wrote it as “we” as a whole.
Can we truly offer forgiveness and love wholeheartedly? When we say, “I forgive you”, is it from the heart or are they just words? Are we saying it because we feel we have too, to make the other person feel better? We have all heard the saying that “forgiveness is for you” not the other person. So why do we still feel hatred for the other person after we have “forgiven” them? It’s because we really haven’t forgiven them. Is it possible to have a conversation with them and not remind them of what they’ve done? Can we forgive someone and not have any communication or association with them? Yes, we can, if we truly forgive someone all of this is possible. To be clear we’re talking about things that we’ve said we have forgiven someone for. It is understood that some things are harder to release than others.
Holding on to that dislike keeps us from moving ahead in some area of our lives. We’re keeping ourselves stressed out and upset because we refuse to forgive. That heaviness we’re holding on too is keeping us from being capable of loving people wholeheartedly. This can’t be the way we want to go through life. So, lets learn forgiveness so that we can release the burdens we’ve been carrying. Feel that relief and move onward knowing that we’ve done a great thing for ourselves.
What is forgiveness?
A quick Bing search says: Forgiveness is defined as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment. It is also a decision to release vengeance toward someone who has harmed you. This decision is made regardless of whether they deserve it. It involves letting go of anger and hurt, which can lead to improved mental health and well-being. Practicing forgiveness can result in lower levels of depression, anxiety, and hostility. It can also lead to higher self-esteem and greater life satisfaction. It is important to note that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation. One can forgive without returning to the same relationship. It does not mean accepting harmful behaviors.
Capable of forgiving
Years ago, I made the decision to forgive someone. I said the “I forgive you(s)” and was done with it. Or so I thought. LOL! As time went on, I felt the same. I wouldn’t say her name. Would only refer to her as she or her and the conversations between us was very short. I only dealt with her because I felt I had to. February was her birthday, and I called her. The conversation was the same but a little different. I felt willing to actually talk to her and engage in conversation.
So, we’re talking, and I hear “I forgive you”. After a couple of seconds, I heard it again “I forgive you”. I realized my higher self was speaking, nudging me to really forgive her. I instantly said it to myself “I forgive you”. After a couple of times, I felt this release. This ease, like it’s finally done, it’s finally finished.
Forgiveness is for us all. Release what’s keeping you stagnate so that you can move on.
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